It’s part of Jesus’ teaching in the Sermon on the Mount, where he addresses the importance of reconciling with others before approaching God in worship. Why? Well, worship is holy. We can’t be at odds with our brothers and sisters and be right with God. That inconsistency cannot withstand scrutiny.
Jesus taught, “Therefore, if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First, be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift” (Matthew 5:23–24).
Jesus emphasizes the importance of relationships within the body of believers and the ideal of being reconciled to one another in the church. How much more should this apply to those who do not know the love of God? We are His witnesses in this realm. How are we doing? If we have hurt or offended anyone as believers, we need to address it, especially with those with whom we have a conflict. According to Jesus, reconciliation should be prioritized over religious acts, offerings, or worship.
The passage in Matthew 5 aligns with Jesus’ teachings on loving neighbors and treating others as one would want to be treated, what we might call “The Golden Rule.” This also reveals the need for authentic righteousness, not just an outward appearance, which is hypocrisy. There is just too much of that in the world today. Finally, true worship involves the state of one’s heart and relationships with others, not merely outward acts. Worship is not acceptable to God when harboring anger, bitterness, or unresolved conflict.
What are some practical applications? Start with a self-examination of the heart. Before we worship, take a moment to reflect on our relationships with others and identify any unresolved conflicts or grievances. If there are any, take the initiative to reach out and seek reconciliation. Don’t “wait” for the other person. Get on it. Apologize sincerely and swiftly, and strive to make amends if someone has been wronged.
But don’t forget to pray. Ask God to soften hearts so that the one you are reaching out to would be open, for as Proverbs 18:19 reads, “A brother offended is harder to win than a strong city, and contentions are like the bars of a castle.” Also, pray for your heart to show grace and make peace with others, as pride will only continue to promote strife.
Genuine, authentic, or true worship comes from hearts free of bitterness and anger. Prioritizing reconciliation honors God and practically prepares the heart for worship. Matthew 5:23-24 teaches that genuine worship of God is closely tied to our relationships with others. Reconciliation with those who have been wronged or who hold grievances is essential before offering gifts to God or engaging in the worship of the King.